What’s the Matter?
ONCE UPON A TIME… something mattered. I can’t remember exactly what IT was, only that at the time, IT really mattered. IT really, really mattered . . . a lot! I do remember making a big deal of whatever IT was. I remember the looks I got from my family as I stomped about fretting about IT, raising my voice and saying, “I just can’t take IT anymore!” I remember calling and emailing my friends to circle the wagons and get some support and sympathy for my stance, only to get a lukewarm response like, “things will get better.” Oh, if they only knew. I’m never letting go of IT. I remember going to bed angry and tossing and turning all night long. I remember waking up and feeling miserable about myself, and my behavior; I remember feeling ashamed and alone. I remember everything …except what IT was. IT wasn’t but a year ago. IT was so important that I couldn’t let go of IT, yet IT disappeared. Time marched on, daily activities resumed, and IT was nowhere to be found. I looked and looked for IT. I sat and thought about IT. But IT was gone for good!
IT has been replaced and as IT turned out, I didn’t really need IT. I found something else to take IT’s place. I found that the secret of letting IT go, instead of letting IT get the best of me was to simply ask myself, “Will this matter a year from now, will IT really matter?”
Richard Carlson refers to a game he titled, “time warp”. He used this as a Stress Less strategy and to diffuse unpleasant confrontations. To play “time warp,” all you have to do is imagine that whatever circumstance you are dealing with, isn’t’ happening right now, but a year from now. Then simply ask yourself, “Is this situation really as important as I’m making it out to be?” Once in a great while it may be – but a vast majority of the time, it simply isn’t.
Now I get IT, IT’s like time travel! If you knew the future and IT’s outcome, would you change IT for the better? Of course you would! IT’s all about perspective, because the majority of the time IT isn’t as important as the relationships you have with your family, friends, co-workers, or the stranger whose path you just crossed.
Once again I find myself biting my tongue, counting to ten and closing my mouth when faced with IT. By the time I complete this adventure, I won’t have a tongue, but my outlook and disposition will have changed for the better!
THIS WEEKS ADVENTURE ASSIGNMENT
Think about IT.
That’s your Adventure Assignment. Have a great week and let go of what really isn’t important and replace IT with a hug or a smile! You’ll be glad you did.
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