Becoming more patient…WOW, This will be an interesting week, but take as much time as you need, because this is a BIG ONE! Becoming more patient and practicing these techniques will take some true effort and practice. If this is an area that you feel that you need to work on, hang in there and stay here until you think that you are ready to move on. I’ve purposely combined 2 chapters so that we can not only grasp the subject, but discover the mental tools used to become a more patient person. Sound good?
Our author states it beautifully.
The quality of patience goes a long way toward your goal of creating a more peaceful and loving self. The more patient you are, the more accepting you will be of what is, rather than insisting that life be exactly as you would like it to be. Without patience, life is extremely frustrating. you are easily annoyed, bothered, and irritated. Patience adds a dimension of ease and acceptance to your life. IT’S ESSENTIAL FOR INNER PEACE.
So let’s look at this. Let’s dissect the parts that keep us from having the patience we need. Do you insist on having everything, or most everything your way? Is it a case of “my way or the highway?” Is it difficult for you to accept what is rather than how you want it to be? Do you identify with the symptoms of “impatientitus”: frustrated, annoyed, bothered, irritated? Do you wish that there was a prescription for a pill that would give you more patience without having to work on your inner self? Just pop one in the morning and you’re set for the day – your daily dose of 500 mg. to keep your tolerance level within normal limits. If only it were that easy.
Dr. Carlson asks us to catch ourselves building a “mental snowball”, before situations get out of hand. Once again we are practicing “zipping our lips” before we react or speak. He asks us to BREATH, and remind ourselves that some of these annoyances really are “small stuff” when put into perspective. He continues: “Patience also involves seeing the innocence in others.” For the most part I would agree that most people do not mean to stand on your last nerve, or pushing the wrong button, so it’s our thought process that will push us past our initial anger or impatient mindset and allow us to breath, relax and react in a less stressed manner.
PATIENCE 101: EVAN,THE STORY OF AN IMPATIENT MAN…
A few years back (way before we had Movies on Demand), my husband brought home a video for us to watch; that movie was, EVAN ALMIGHTY. You may be familiar with the first movie, BRUCE ALMIGHTY; and this is the sequel. In the opening of the film, we find the main character, Evan Baxter (played by Steve Carell) as a newly elected Congressman who has just moved from Buffalo with his family, and is now settling into his new home in northern VA and his new office in Washington, DC. I found it interesting that Evan’s campaign platform was that he and his followers were going to “change the world”.
But, God (played by Morgan Freeman) had a different plan for Evan and after He appears several times in different human forms, and performs numerous and unexplainable feats in an effort to convince Evan that He is indeed God, He informs Evan that He has a different plan for him, that there will be a flood and that he, EVAN, is to build an ark! Once, only thinking that his job was to serve his country, Evan now finds out that his new purpose in life is to serve humanity.
Well as you can guess, and as the story evolves, Evan takes on the physical characteristics of NOAH and a great deal of skepticism and publicity surrounds Evan as he dutifully, yet hesitantly builds the ark in his front yard and the animals start arriving 2 X 2. The media goes wild, and his family reacts in fear as they watch their beloved father and husband transform under God’s will.
What I found to be such a profound revelation in my watching this movie was when God had a conversation with Evan’s wife, Joan (as in Joan of Ark). As the scene goes, Joan is out for dinner and is approached by a waiter (who, as it turns out is God). When she complains to him that her life is so hard, that all she ever wanted was togetherness for her family, she continues to explain to God (the waiter) that she just couldn’t handle the changes in her husband, the downfall of his career, the changes in the structure of their family life, the impact on her children and the loss of comfort that she had become accustomed to, so she left. AND that’s when the light went on for me; as God explained to Joan that He/God doesn’t give people things….He gives them opportunities! When we pray or ask for family togetherness, He gives us the opportunity to be together as a family.
When we pray for courage, He gives us opportunities to be brave.
When we pray for patience, we receive opportunities to learn patience…and so on.
Yes this made the whole picture of my life change, so that I could change my way of thinking. I’ve heard that when you receive lemons, make lemonade and I’ve tried over the years to incorporate that philosophy into my character, but now in that simple moment in a movie, it became all the more clear. God gives us everything that we need and He gives us opportunities to take all things negative and to turn them into a positive. He gives us the opportunity to serve others, to be patient, kind and tolerant. He gives us the opportunities to be brave, loyal, and giving; and the list goes on. But most importantly, he gives us the opportunity to be as He would have us be, not what we want ourselves to be.
Click Link: Evan Almighty
Now, when I find myself in a place that I find difficult and uncomfortable and yes, even down right aggravating, I remember Evan and the task he was given (or was it an opportunity?) and realize that I have a choice to turn irritating circumstances and daunting tasks around and respond in a totally different way.
THIS WEEKS ADVENTURE ASSIGNMENT
You are on your own for Chapter 14 Create “Patience Practice Periods”. I trust that you will find this a unique approach and learn to turn down the level of frustration as you go about your day to day activities. AND, I trust Like Evan and Joan, you will find that there are opportunities hidden among the “stuff”, (the small stuff) that stresses and taxes our ability to relax and enjoy the present moments we are given.
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